Acceptance from the Children

Among American children problems with possession versus discussing often arise when two children dispute about using a toy. What's considered desirable would be that the child ought to learn to talk about his toys and games, that are his property, with other people. French children appear to become trained something quite different. Toys are familial property, and individuals owned by each family should be stored separate.

Just like the kids with their parents or any other familial grown ups form a detailed little circle around the block, so their possessions should remain inside the circle. The kid who brings into this circle something from outdoors appears to become presenting an intrusive object, which arouses all of the negative sentiments felt, but from pleasantness in a roundabout way expressed, toward outsiders. Simultaneously it's an offense towards the outsiders, whose possessions therefore are displaced, and restitution and apologies for them are needed. Also, as French grown ups tend to be preoccupied with property with growing their very own, they've to arrive at agreeable temptation to do this by illegitimate means. The youngsters smart way of obtaining others' things may stimulate in grown ups impulses to consider that they make an effort to repress by themselves and that they therefore cannot tolerate within the child.

French children show an excellent readiness to experience with children more youthful than themselves,... and [are] prepared to accept them within their games. A boy of 8 or 9 will have ball having a more compact boy, a five-year-old or perhaps a two-year-old, without showing any eagerness in the ineptitude from the more youthful one. The 2 children might be siblings or may fit in with families that know one another. A slender blond boy around seven appears completely absorbed inside a young girl of 2 or 3 whom he follows around, bending to talk to her. The moms of these two youngsters are knowledgeable about one another, and also the boy and the mother both shake hands using the son's mother when she leaves the park. The boy looks quite disconsolate without his little friend eventually, at his mother's suggestion, he accumulates his scooter and gradually pushes off onto it.